Hard Times Are coming!

We've had the flu bug going through our house this past week. My grandson brought it home from his mom's boyfriend's house. So far, only my grandson and my daughter (his mom) have gotten it. I hope no one else has to suffer through it, but you know how the flu is!

A. is now only getting to see her real mom once a month. She doesn't talk much about it, but I know it is hard for her. For some reason, the Agency also changed the sib visits from once a month to every other month but went from only one hour to two hours. Things are winding down and mom's termination should be happening in October. I don't know what types of issues that will bring to all of us, but I am trying to prepare for some hard times. I'm not sure you can be prepared for such emotional issues. This is my first time going through anything like this. Maybe some of you who have been doing this for awhile can tell me what to most likely expect from A. when the final verdict comes in that termination is final and she will never be going home to live with mom ever again.

When we took A. and her sister into our home 3 years ago, I never dreamed it would go this far. I was sure that mom would figure out what the system wanted from her and she would do whatever she needed to do and her kids would be home within a year. She almost made it once. She was just 2 weeks away from having her youngest baby go home, but as usual, she messed up. From that time on, she has not been able to get her life together. It is actually quite mind boggeling when you hear some of the things that these moms do, knowing that the fate of their children are hanging in the balance. I guess these moms have problems of their own and most of them come from abusive situations themselves and have never learned how to be a proper mother.

I don't hate A.'s mom for being how she is, I do know about her past. I find it extremely sad when I think of the cycle of abuse that so many families have had to live with for years, sometimes even generations. I only hope that A. is able to break that cycle for herself and for her future family. I can only pray.